When a couple enters therapy, they are often brimming with complaints about their partners. The difficulties and dynamics have become so complex that it is hard to sort through the many offences of which they have accused each other. Chances are, in most cases, both parties are right, and both are wrong. Relationship work will help couples, or family members stop the blame game and start taking responsibility for individual actions your own actions. In order to resolve genuine issues, it is helpful to abandon the case you have long been building, address your part of the problem, and start fresh with a clean slate. When you are vulnerable you are more likely to achieve what you want. Relationship development looks at underlying unhealthy and conflicting beliefs within the dynamic.